Deliverance

11 Jul

Three years ago,  I would’ve had this photo made into wallpaper and plastered it across the walls of my terribly cute, single-gal-in-the-city apartment. How tiring and disheartening it is to just… keep… going.  This little post is  a heartfelt and unabashed shout-out to all my single ladies who are searching for their jigsaw piece. 

For unknown reasons, some folks get married and make believe that they were never, ever single.  That they never got drenched in the dating pool, or went speed dating, got set up by their auntie or on one too many blind dates for it to even be funny/exciting anymore. For those of us that weren’t magically married off or shacked up at 23, or 25, or 27, the heartbreak, disappointment and exhaustion of single-life dating is not soon forgotten, despite having found a partner with whom to play house and while away long summers.  Contrary to the patronising and often hurtful assumptions of  Married Friends, it ain’t no picnic to force yourself to get “back out there” time and time again, to sustain a belief in destiny or the ever-elusive ‘one’ that will change your life forever when faced with the uphill slog that is dating.

It’s not that married people forget, it’s just that they have numbed the pain with a long-term relationship. How I longed to skip all the coffees and dinners and walks in parks, and get to the ‘real’ bit. I didn’t realise that the long, arduous dating journey helped me understand what I was really looking for, what I was open and closed to, and just how much I didn’t like walking through parks with guys I barely knew.  

In the face of the strength that so many of you have found within to keep going, not just on auto-pilot but with positivity and optimism, this here blogger wants to say – give yourselves a break. You are amazing, kind, thoughtful, intelligent, well-qualified, talented women who will all meet the guy or gal that is going to make you extraordinarily happy. You are going to change someone’s life completely, and when they meet you, they are going to absolutely love you.  For now, revel in your life ‘before’;  in moulding and developing your own passions,  enjoy it despite the sometimes lonely and haunting background music, take care of yourself and be happy, and let them come find you

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6 Responses to “Deliverance”

  1. Jo July 11, 2011 at 14:43 #

    You are an amzing writer.

    • danniibee July 21, 2011 at 08:30 #

      Thanks Jojo.. would like to see more of YOUR writing, you busy thing.

  2. Dotan July 21, 2011 at 08:13 #

    d, if I’d known that you hate walks in parks so much, perhaps we would never have gotten to have our 2nd date 😉

    And to all the ‘amazing, kind, thoughtful, intelligent, well-qualified, talented women’ out there: if you are truly so – make it show.

    • danniibee July 21, 2011 at 08:31 #

      Uh, that WAS our 2nd date. Your comments on this post are not really appreciated. Also, shouldn’t you be WORKING?

  3. Katie July 24, 2011 at 11:04 #

    Loving the marital bickering!
    This was so lovely and so well written, I love reading your blog.

    • danniibee July 24, 2011 at 11:21 #

      Thanks McKatester. Maybe you should have a blog about mummying, then all your posts could be convenient photo opps for baby Jojo so I can watch him grow!

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